That may sound simple enough but, in all too many cases it's the biggest obstacles we face.  Buddha said, "Anger is poison and an obstacle to enlightenment". Anger is not useful if it is not for reasonable thing.  Anger may destroy you.  Anger may be denied because we feel to guilty about it, or afraid of it.  Here are six steps to healthy Anger Release.


1) Decide what you made Angry -

               Ask yourself the very important Question , Is this worth getting angry over ? If it is a small annoyance that's ticked you off, as it is in the majority of angry episodes, forget it. If you cant forget it, then perhaps the source of your anger goes beyond this simple incident. Ferret out the underlying cause of your hostility. Bring your feelings to the surface and deal with them.


2) Give the "Provoker" the benefit of the doubt -

                Instead of inflaming  your anger by feeling yourself such thoughts as "who does think he is for treating me in this underhanded way " suggest to yourself that perhaps this person is havinhg a bad day. Come up with a reasonable justification for the behaviour - something that you can understand and relate to.

3) Count to Ten

                 Before any action in ager just count to ten or practice  some form of mental relaxation. Most psychologists agree , there is nothing to be gained by an explosive outburst aimed at relation. Calm down first, then discuss the rationally.


4) Make your Grievance known without attacking the other person : 

                 This called tact and some good communication skill. Register your complaint using I instead of you . For example instead of saying you are acting unfairly and you are wrong, It is far more effective to say " I feel hurt . What you are doing doesn't take my needs into account."
  

5) Listen : 

              Another tough technique to master . But really try . Listen hard. and above all , understand. This is the key to step in resolving the conflict is. after all, the key to safely diffusing your anger.


6) Forgive : 

             When you forgive someone (and this includes yourself ), many clearly positive psychological and psychological changes takes place. Yo feel warm and more easily, your heart feels warm and melty , your blood pressure and heart rate drop, you may even cry. But most importantly, through forgiveness you once again experience the love that is the essence of your relationship.  You remember that you care about this person which may be why their behavior hurt so much in the first place   
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       How you think, then, can have a profound effect on our physical and emotional health. People who constantly see themselves and life in a negative light work themselves into a state of low self esteem and depression. They also burden on their bodies with unrelenting stress. On the other hand your positive thinking affects on your body and daily life positive way.  

If you want to see how positive you are, here is Simple way to find out how positive you are!
      This is Simple Test about your thinking. It will show you how positive you are.
To find out how positive you are, answer these 15 Questions as honestly as possible.

Use following scoring system: 

* Give 5 Points if your answer is Always or Almost Always.

* Give 4 Points if your answer is Usually

* Give 3 Points if your answer is Sometimes.

* Give 2 points if your answer is for Rarely.

* Give 1 point if your answer is Never.


1. When the unexpected forces you to change your plans, are you quick to spot a hidden advantage in this new situation?

1 2 3 4 5

 2. When you catch a stranger staring at you, do you conclude it’s because he/she finds you attractive?

1 2 3 4 5

3. Do you like most of the people you meet?

1 2 3 4 5

4. When you think next year, do you tend to think you’ll be better off then than you are now?

1 2 3 4 5

5. Do you often stop to admire things of beauty?

1 2 3 4 5

6. When someone finds fault with you or something you have done, can you tell the difference between useful criticism and “sour grapes” which is better off ignored?

1 2 3 4 5

7.  Do you praise your spouse / best friend / lover more often you criticize him or her?

1 2 3 4 5

8. Do you believe that human race will survive well into the 21st Century?

1 2 3 4 5

9. Are you surprised when a friend lets you down?

1 2 3 4 5


10. Do you think you are happy?

1 2 3 4 5 

11. If a policeman stopped you for speeding when you were quite certain you weren’t, would you firmly argue your case and even take it to court to prove you were right?

1 2 3 4 5


12. Do you feel comfortable making yourself the butt of your jokes?

1 2 3 4 5


13. Do you believe that, overall, your state of mind has had a positive effect on your physical health?

1 2 3 4 5

14. If you made a list of your ten favorite people, would you be on it?

1 2 3 4 5


15. When you think back over the past few months, do you tend to remember your little successes before you set backs and failures?

1 2 3 4 5   

Scoring  
  • If you scored 65 or over, consider yourself a “Superstar”

  • If you scored 60 – 65 Excellent – you are genuine positive thinker.

  • If you scored 55 – 60 Good – you are positive thinker – sometimes

  • If you scored 50 – 55 Fair – Your positive side and your negative side are about evenly matched.

  • If you scored 50 and bellow: Do you see any consistent negative patterns? Where could you improve?

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Simple way to know How positive you are !

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