Exercise is essential to be fit in our life. Everyone wants to be fit healthy and happy in life but not everyone achieves those things. some of us achieve by hard work. Today I am going to tell you how you can boot your willpower for exercise... 

According to health sciences professor Neil Oldridge, No single strategy can keep everyone exercising. Different people require different tactics. Today I am going to tell you Five willpower booster steps.


1) Inspire yourself with music -


                     Music is a great tool to inspire you. Inspire yourself with music. Play your favourite tunes you enjoy as you work out. 90% of joggers prefer running while listening to music because the music made exercising easier.  



2) Think Active and You will become active -



                      Think active and you will become active. As we think we become. so thinking is the important thing. If you think that you are lazy probably you become lazy. It affects our behaviour so think seriously. Browse through sports magazines. Buy accessories only serious exercise use (for cycling or swim goggles). Wear Exercise clothes on weekends.




3) Chart your progress -



                         Chart Progress, every day You jog record distance and time, You swim record distance.  This chart will motivate you to stay on. 









4) Keep your gear visible -


                           If you place your exercise equipment where you'll see it, you'll be reminded to use it. Keep your Tennis Racket in the car, or sitting room, your running shoes by the bed. and many other things you use for exercising keep them visible.









5) Combat excuses before you make them -


                         
              Combat excuses before you make them. Exercise in a place that's easy to get to. If you exercise at morning or after work, join the club nearest your home or office. Schedule workouts for early morning or late evening when you can't excuse your laziness by saying "I had to take my cat to the vet." or " "I had some other work.."
         
      




 The best thing is that as you exercise week after week, sticking with it becomes a lot easier. you'll find joy in it.
   



5 Steps to Boost your Willpower for Exercise

   
    Do you have Dream ? How you can turn your dream into reality... Follow your dream in right direction, People who followed there dreams and now making a difference in this world. You have to follow simple steps in your daily life..here are 8 steps for turning your dreams into reality...

1) Vision :

 
    Someone said that without vision the people perish. If you really want to turn your dreams into reality establish a Vision.

        What is vision ? Vision is simply a picture of what you come true. The clearer the picture of your dream and the more details you can describe, the easier it is for your dream to come true.   The problem is most people never take time to think about the complete details of their dreams.

There are two tools you may want to employ today to begin to paint a vision for your life.

i) Develop a Vision Book :

         
 Get notebook from anywhere it must be blank because so you can write in. In your book write out what would you do if you knew you could not fail. If possible draw a picture of that vision. Complete your vision page with picture and text.

ii) Write a mission Statement :

 What is mission statement ? A mission statement is a one sentence statement that actually describes what you want to do with your life. If you can put the essence of your goals and values into one sentence what it would be ? You can place all your dreams in relationship with that mission.    


2) Set Goal and focus on :

      Goal setting can be a powerful, life changing experience, if you do it properly. You want to do It is impossible to follow dozens of reams at once so you have to set goal. focus on one dream at a time. People who can focus on one goal or dream at one business can be far more successful than those who try to do many things at once.
Everything at once, is it possible ? no
       If you are serious about pursuing your dream you must focus your efforts one one dream.


3) Write it down :
     
      When you write something down, it takes on a life of its own. Suddenly it becomes clear in your mind exactly what you want. Your dreams become clear to other people, because they can read what you plan to accomplish. According to survey  40% of businesses have a written business plan that they follow. And those businesses are the ones that succeed.
      Plan is most important factor in success. In your dream-book write a mission statement for your life and then write steps...First...Second...Third.... for implementing this mission statement as stated above. Be as specific as you can write the details of your dream; be as specific as you can regarding your process for achieving your plans and watch your dreams take on a life of their own. Don't be discouraged if this takes a lot longer than you expect. Write down the dreams They can and do come true. 

4) Strategy : 

                Often at the planning stage is where people fail. They can dream, but you know dreaming is the easy part. Dreamers often fails to plan and remember the old adage, "If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail. It is not easy it is hard but not impossible it is possible with appropriate way.
  
     Write a strategic plan in your dream book , that will allow you to fulfill that mission statement write the plan in detail and follow it.    
  
5) Expect to Win :




          Ralph Waldo Emerson says, "There has never been a winner who did not first expect to win." The oldest piece of philosophy known to humankind is, "We become what we think about" Be a positive thinker and think about your dream. Believe what you want to come true.

 6) Persistence 

           Calvin Coolidge says "Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence.  Talent will not. Nothing is more common than successful Men with talent. Genius will not. The world is full of educated derelicts. Persistent and determination alone omnipotent. The slogan 'press on' has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race."

           Do you know the story of Thomas Edison ? Edison attempted 9,000 ways to invent a new type of storage battery before he found the right combination . His associate W.S. Mallory used to laughat him at him saying he failed 9,000 times.  But Edison simply replied , " I have found 9,000 ways it wont work." This is true persistence. He had a goal in mind . He developed a strategy to accomplish his goal and continued through his problems.


7) Faith

          We talk about a vision, Goal setting , How to stay focusing strategy, persistence. Well the last step in accomplishing your dream is similar to first It is to have faith. Faith , faith means trusting yourself, trusting your dream and trusting the process of life you will get there Faith is believing in your end result befour you get there.



How to turn your Dreams into reality.. 7 Simple Steps.

1) Find a quiet environment free of distractions.  A private room, away from telephones, Street noise and other interruptions.  If you need any bit of paraphernalia to perform meditation , it may be a do not disturb sign.

2 Choose a word or phrase ( mantra) -Choose a mantra to focus on.

3) Sit  upright in a comfortable position,  with your hands resting naturally on your lap.

4) Let your eyes closed gently and take a few moments to relax your muscles and quiet your mind. Sometimes a few deep breaths help to prepare yo for meditation.

5) B, breathing normally, become aware of each breath, Working with the slow, natural rhythm of your breathing, repeat your focus word or sound silently on every exhale.

6) Disregard distractions; they are not important. a passive attitude appears to be the most essential factor in eliciting the relaxation response. thoughts imaginary and feelings may drift into one's awareness. One should not concentrate on these perceptions but allow them to pass on.

7)  Continue the exercise for 10 to 20 minutes. Use your judgement for sneak an occasional peek at a wristwatch to gauge your time.

      Don't use a timer or alarm clock as the noise can be too disturbing. When your time is up, remain quiet,  with your eyes closed for a few minutes, to allow  your thoughts to readjust to full wakefulness

7 Simple Steps to Relaxation

 
         
             That may sound simple enough but, in all too many cases it's the biggest obstacles we face.  Buddha said, "Anger is poison and an obstacle to enlightenment". Anger is not useful if it is not for reasonable thing.  Anger may destroy you.  Anger may be denied because we feel to guilty about it, or afraid of it.  Here are six steps to healthy Anger Release.


1) Decide what you made Angry -

               Ask yourself the very important Question , Is this worth getting angry over ? If it is a small annoyance that's ticked you off, as it is in the majority of angry episodes, forget it. If you cant forget it, then perhaps the source of your anger goes beyond this simple incident. Ferret out the underlying cause of your hostility. Bring your feelings to the surface and deal with them.


2) Give the "Provoker" the benefit of the doubt -

                Instead of inflaming  your anger by feeling yourself such thoughts as "who does think he is for treating me in this underhanded way " suggest to yourself that perhaps this person is havinhg a bad day. Come up with a reasonable justification for the behaviour - something that you can understand and relate to.

3) Count to Ten

                 Before any action in ager just count to ten or practice  some form of mental relaxation. Most psychologists agree , there is nothing to be gained by an explosive outburst aimed at relation. Calm down first, then discuss the rationally.


4) Make your Grievance known without attacking the other person : 

                 This called tact and some good communication skill. Register your complaint using I instead of you . For example instead of saying you are acting unfairly and you are wrong, It is far more effective to say " I feel hurt . What you are doing doesn't take my needs into account."
  

5) Listen : 

              Another tough technique to master . But really try . Listen hard. and above all , understand. This is the key to step in resolving the conflict is. after all, the key to safely diffusing your anger.


6) Forgive : 

             When you forgive someone (and this includes yourself ), many clearly positive psychological and psychological changes takes place. Yo feel warm and more easily, your heart feels warm and melty , your blood pressure and heart rate drop, you may even cry. But most importantly, through forgiveness you once again experience the love that is the essence of your relationship.  You remember that you care about this person which may be why their behavior hurt so much in the first place   

6 Ways to Healthy Anger Releas....

                
          People who are loving, who completely accept themselves and others are usually full of energy and joy. Becoming more loving and more natural has benefit for better health because love and health go hand in hand. Let’s see how to love and beloved.

1. First Love yourself

              You can’t receive love from another person unless you love yourself. If you don’t love yourself, and a person says, ‘I love you,’ you think, ‘I don’t deserve it.’ You resist the love because you can’t think of yourself as worthy, because you can’t value their positive estimation of yourself.
Only if we love ourselves we can give love to others.
When you don’t love yourself, you want the other person love you... this demand destroys your ability to the other person unconditionally. The love you have for yourself is the nucleus of all motivation. If you love yourself, you feel worthy. If you feel worthy, you feel competent. If you feel competent, you are ready to love.   
 So if you want to be loved first learn to love yourself.
     
2. Give without demands –
        I love you, but….”I will love you if…” And many of us complete the sentence with: “I love you if you love me back “. 

        We all have a tendency to want to make deals with other people rather than to give without demands. It is this manipulative type of loving that blocks the full expression of love in our life. Loving with expectations is love that is conditional love. If you need the other persons love to feel good about yourself, you look up to him out of desperation. And you give love out of fear, constantly worried that he might stop loving you. This isn’t love, its dependency, with the little joy or happiness in it.
    
       We tend to hide our normal actions because we want to impress the other person to maintain that sparkle or magic feeling. We become afraid of showing our true feelings, of being open and vulnerable, because we think the person will stop loving us if we have imperfections. And since we don’t allow the other person to see our imperfections, we usually don’t allow to show them to show us theirs. We put should and shouldn’t on them that are impossible to meet. When we strive for this certainty, we shut off love.
     
3. Share your feelings

          A relationship, which to be fulfilling must be sharing, giving, and accepting, becomes full of pressures and expectations caused by the fear of losing it. That fear destroys the relationship.
The only way fear or any other negative emotion can destroy a relationship is if we don’t let the other person know what we’re feeling.

         It is very important to share your feelings, you may think you’ll get a negative response, but probably won’t.  Everyone really wants to be honest, and it feels so good to just open up and share with someone what you are feeling. They’ll appreciate your openness, because it allows them to be open too, and to share vulnerabilities.      

        Communicate without accusing or berating the others - don’t say, ‘you hurt me’ or you made me angry.’ Just talk about yourself: ‘I feel hurt when you act that way ’, or I feel angry when you do that.’
     
         When you express your feelings in this way, you don’t attack or accuse or berate the other person you just communicate. Keep in mind that dishonesty and a lack of open communication destroys a relationship. Dishonesty is one of the two things that block love. The other thing as we saw in first point of this Article that is not loving yourself. 

4. Give 100 % of your attention

                All the negative emotions anger, fear, grief is stem – from lack of self-love. When you love yourself, you feel complete and zestful. To see zestful person in yourself and in others is the essence of loving. 
 
                  Love is simply the most creative use of our own energy, and there are many ways to channel that that energy eating natural foods, getting aerobic exercise, spending time in unmolested nature, preying mediating but most importantly, giving someone 100% of your attention when you relate to them. Are all effective way to increase loving.  

How To Love and Beloved


           Any change, positive or negative, marks the end of a page in your life. Nothing is final in the world. Look around you everything is in the process of changing and growing. To stop changing is to cease living.
       

Learn the Art of letting go :

            A Divorce, job separation or other radical change in your life can be followed by a difficult period of adjustment. And psychologists explain it’s important to give your emotions enough time to heal.  It happens with everyone but know that, in time, you must let go of the past and move forward.
Here is simple and excellent relaxation technique, with imagery. 

I hope this technique will help you to forget your past and move on to the future –

1. Sit in a comfortable position.

2. Close your eyes.

3. Now gradually clear your mind of thoughts and clutter and focus on your breathing.
Notice how effortlessly the air breathes you. There is no beginning and no end; it is a cycle like waves lapping shore.

4. Now imagine each exhalation as “letting go”. Breathe out all unnecessary thoughts and pressures.

5. Become aware of the brief pause between exhalation and inhalation.

        Feel the silence, the claim, the peace of this pause. Think of it as this period in your life just you’ve let go of the past and before you move on to the future. At the end of this pause, notice the burst of energy you feel as the air fills your lungs again. Your whole body expands. It is a symbol of awakening and renewal.                       

How to accept change and move on...

Here is simple Method to know your job stress level.. lets see

Rules -

For each of following questions rate your job on a scale

If your answer is - Bothers me a little, give 1 point. 
If your answer is - bother me a lot, give 5 point


1. Deadlines are a daily part of my job.


2. After leaving the job, I generally complete work I have not had time for during the day (if yes mark 5)


3. I find it difficult to work with some of my co-workers.


4. I continue to allow myself to accept new job responsibilities without letting go of others.


5. There is little variety or challenge in my job.


6. I often feel overwhelmed with the demands of my job.


7. When I am under pressure I tend to lose my temper.


8. I have a problem completing work assignments because of the many interruptions.


9. I am concerned with the goal of being a perfect employee, spouse, and parent at the same time .


10. My job is at home. I cannot walk out and leave it at night (if yes mark 5).

Scoring: 

 Total your score for work stress.

If your score is below 12, you are probably dealing effectively with the pressures of work.

If your score is between 12 and 30 you may be experiencing some physical or mental signs of distress.

If your score is over 30, work stress is signalling danger ahead. “stress buffers” are needed immediately .


How to know your job Stress level