People who are loving, who completely accept themselves and others are usually full of energy and joy. Becoming more loving and more natural has benefit for better health because love and health go hand in hand. Let’s see how to love and beloved.

1. First Love yourself –

              You can’t receive love from another person unless you love yourself. If you don’t love yourself, and a person says, ‘I love you,’ you think, ‘I don’t deserve it.’ You resist the love because you can’t think of yourself as worthy, because you can’t value their positive estimation of yourself.
Only if we love ourselves we can give love to others.
When you don’t love yourself, you want the other person love you... this demand destroys your ability to the other person unconditionally. The love you have for yourself is the nucleus of all motivation. If you love yourself, you feel worthy. If you feel worthy, you feel competent. If you feel competent, you are ready to love.   
 So if you want to be loved first learn to love yourself.
     
2. Give without demands –
        I love you, but….”I will love you if…” And many of us complete the sentence with: “I love you if you love me back “. 

        We all have a tendency to want to make deals with other people rather than to give without demands. It is this manipulative type of loving that blocks the full expression of love in our life. Loving with expectations is love that is conditional love. If you need the other persons love to feel good about yourself, you look up to him out of desperation. And you give love out of fear, constantly worried that he might stop loving you. This isn’t love, its dependency, with the little joy or happiness in it.
    
       We tend to hide our normal actions because we want to impress the other person to maintain that sparkle or magic feeling. We become afraid of showing our true feelings, of being open and vulnerable, because we think the person will stop loving us if we have imperfections. And since we don’t allow the other person to see our imperfections, we usually don’t allow to show them to show us theirs. We put should and shouldn’t on them that are impossible to meet. When we strive for this certainty, we shut off love.
     
3. Share your feelings –

          A relationship, which to be fulfilling must be sharing, giving, and accepting, becomes full of pressures and expectations caused by the fear of losing it. That fear destroys the relationship.
The only way fear or any other negative emotion can destroy a relationship is if we don’t let the other person know what we’re feeling.

         It is very important to share your feelings, you may think you’ll get a negative response, but probably won’t.  Everyone really wants to be honest, and it feels so good to just open up and share with someone what you are feeling. They’ll appreciate your openness, because it allows them to be open too, and to share vulnerabilities.      

        Communicate without accusing or berating the others - don’t say, ‘you hurt me’ or you made me angry.’ Just talk about yourself: ‘I feel hurt when you act that way ’, or I feel angry when you do that.’
     
         When you express your feelings in this way, you don’t attack or accuse or berate the other person you just communicate. Keep in mind that dishonesty and a lack of open communication destroys a relationship. Dishonesty is one of the two things that block love. The other thing as we saw in first point of this Article that is not loving yourself. 

4. Give 100 % of your attention –

                All the negative emotions anger, fear, grief is stem – from lack of self-love. When you love yourself, you feel complete and zestful. To see zestful person in yourself and in others is the essence of loving. 
 
                  Love is simply the most creative use of our own energy, and there are many ways to channel that that energy eating natural foods, getting aerobic exercise, spending time in unmolested nature, preying mediating but most importantly, giving someone 100% of your attention when you relate to them. Are all effective way to increase loving.  
Daily Life Love Relationship

How To Love and Beloved

                
          People who are loving, who completely accept themselves and others are usually full of energy and joy. Becoming more loving and more natural has benefit for better health because love and health go hand in hand. Let’s see how to love and beloved.

1. First Love yourself –

              You can’t receive love from another person unless you love yourself. If you don’t love yourself, and a person says, ‘I love you,’ you think, ‘I don’t deserve it.’ You resist the love because you can’t think of yourself as worthy, because you can’t value their positive estimation of yourself.
Only if we love ourselves we can give love to others.
When you don’t love yourself, you want the other person love you... this demand destroys your ability to the other person unconditionally. The love you have for yourself is the nucleus of all motivation. If you love yourself, you feel worthy. If you feel worthy, you feel competent. If you feel competent, you are ready to love.   
 So if you want to be loved first learn to love yourself.
     
2. Give without demands –
        I love you, but….”I will love you if…” And many of us complete the sentence with: “I love you if you love me back “. 

        We all have a tendency to want to make deals with other people rather than to give without demands. It is this manipulative type of loving that blocks the full expression of love in our life. Loving with expectations is love that is conditional love. If you need the other persons love to feel good about yourself, you look up to him out of desperation. And you give love out of fear, constantly worried that he might stop loving you. This isn’t love, its dependency, with the little joy or happiness in it.
    
       We tend to hide our normal actions because we want to impress the other person to maintain that sparkle or magic feeling. We become afraid of showing our true feelings, of being open and vulnerable, because we think the person will stop loving us if we have imperfections. And since we don’t allow the other person to see our imperfections, we usually don’t allow to show them to show us theirs. We put should and shouldn’t on them that are impossible to meet. When we strive for this certainty, we shut off love.
     
3. Share your feelings –

          A relationship, which to be fulfilling must be sharing, giving, and accepting, becomes full of pressures and expectations caused by the fear of losing it. That fear destroys the relationship.
The only way fear or any other negative emotion can destroy a relationship is if we don’t let the other person know what we’re feeling.

         It is very important to share your feelings, you may think you’ll get a negative response, but probably won’t.  Everyone really wants to be honest, and it feels so good to just open up and share with someone what you are feeling. They’ll appreciate your openness, because it allows them to be open too, and to share vulnerabilities.      

        Communicate without accusing or berating the others - don’t say, ‘you hurt me’ or you made me angry.’ Just talk about yourself: ‘I feel hurt when you act that way ’, or I feel angry when you do that.’
     
         When you express your feelings in this way, you don’t attack or accuse or berate the other person you just communicate. Keep in mind that dishonesty and a lack of open communication destroys a relationship. Dishonesty is one of the two things that block love. The other thing as we saw in first point of this Article that is not loving yourself. 

4. Give 100 % of your attention –

                All the negative emotions anger, fear, grief is stem – from lack of self-love. When you love yourself, you feel complete and zestful. To see zestful person in yourself and in others is the essence of loving. 
 
                  Love is simply the most creative use of our own energy, and there are many ways to channel that that energy eating natural foods, getting aerobic exercise, spending time in unmolested nature, preying mediating but most importantly, giving someone 100% of your attention when you relate to them. Are all effective way to increase loving.  

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